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MAY 6, 2017
PERSONAL REFLECTIONS

Message to Moms

by Seneca MORALEDA-PUGUAN

Hey mom,

It’s been a long day, isn’t it? It’s always a long day. Even rest times are not times of rest with so many things on your mind and so many things to accomplish. The house is so messy. The toys are scattered, the sink is filled with dirty dishes, the laundry basket is overflowing, and the living room is not conducive for living

anymore. And here are the kids throwing tantrums, yelling at each other, wanting your attention. You’re on call 24/7. No days off, no sick leaves. You are not just your children’s mother, you are their cook, cleaner, dishwasher, launderer, playmate and entertainer. I once read a quote that says, “A mother is one person who does the work of twenty. For free.”

Motherhood, the daily grind of child–rearing can be exhausting, physically, mentally and emotionally draining, and sometimes suffocating. It is. It definitely is.

You want a break, don’t you? Maybe you are longing to travel, to treat yourself to a cup of coffee, pamper yourself with a haircut, or even catch a few hours of sleep. There are times you want to escape and breathe, close your eyes and relax your mind. Even for just a little while. Go ahead, you deserve it.

Mom, I just want to tell you, you are doing fine. In fact, you are doing great. You are awesome even if at times you feel inadequate or you’re not doing enough. You are beautiful even in moments you feel ugly and old. You are a Wonder Woman and a Superwoman rolled into one. You are awesome.

You have a job no one else can handle. You put on a hat nobody else can put on their head.  You wear a shoe no one can wear. You have a destiny no one else can fulfill. You are unique. You are the best. Whether you are staying at home with your children or working to make ends meet, hats off to you.

By raising your kids the best way you can, you are making an impact not just on one life but on a generation, not just on one simple being but on nations. Yes mom, you might not know it but the simple things you do- feeding your children, clothing them, teaching them, inculcating good values and discipline, loving them -- they go a long way. They are worth it. They will bear fruit.

So hang in there, momma!

And to you, single mom…

How do you do it? Being a mother with a partner by her side is not easy at all, let alone being one without help. I am sure there have been so many times you wanted to give up, you wanted to retreat but you still carry on. I am imagining the moments you would go into your room and cry silently, and come out still smiling.

Thank you for your resilience and strength. Parenthood is not meant to be done alone but you are rocking it. You are fulfilling the greatest job in the world by yourself and that’s pretty amazing. Know that your children are proud of you. Thinking of you makes your children courageous. You encourage them to be fearless and to never ever quit. Life must be undeniably difficult but I am sure that you and your children will finish strong.

And to you mom who has gone ahead and has finished the task of motherhood…

Thank you. Though you are missed, you are always on your children’s thoughts.

You may never have the chance to hear these words again but you are loved, adored and honored. You have become a great example, an inspiration to many moms who are struggling but still fighting, exhausted but still carrying on because becoming a mom is the greatest task of all.

This is a message to every mom…

Thank you for exemplifying selfless love. Despite all our stupid choices, immature decisions, and crazy actions, your love is boundless. Thank you for your touch that brings healing, your smile that brings comfort, your laugh that brings joy. Thank you for your calmness in the midst of trials and your strength in times of weakness. Saying thank you will not suffice. Uttering ‘I love you’ will not compare to your hard work and devotion. Your sacrifice can never be repaid, only appreciated and remembered. Your children’s success, they owe to you. Your children’s future relies on you. You are God’s gift to the world. You are beautiful and wonderful. This is your day, momma! Go celebrate!

“But behind all your stories is always your mother’s story, because hers is where yours begin” – Mitch Albom, For One More Day

Happy Mother’s Day to all you amazing moms!

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