by Bermie Dizon
I have four kids, and they’re all grown up, having their own families and good jobs. My wife and I feel blessed to have such awesome kids.
As their dad, people often ask me what we did to raise them right. It’s a big question because lots of families struggle with parenting.
There’s so much stuff out there fighting for their attention and wasting their time. Things like video games, social media apps like Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok, and texting with friends.
Just look around at the mall, a restaurant, or even a park, and you’ll see people of all ages glued to their phones.
Looking back, there are important lessons I learned as a dad. For me, the most important thing is understanding that being a dad is a sacred job.
It’s something God called us to do. That’s why I believe every day should be Father’s Day, especially since God is our true and everlasting Father.
Fatherly love is like the love from our Heavenly Father – it’s unconditional.
Just as God loves us, dads are supposed to love their kids with all their hearts. Here are some important things dads should do:
Be there for your kids: True love isn’t about the stuff you buy. It’s about spending time with your kids. Dads, make sure you’re there for your kids. Talk with them, do things together, and make memories. Being there shows how much you care.
“These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” (Deuteronomy 6:6-7)
Help your kids grow: Dads should help their kids become their best. Create a safe and supportive space for your kids to thrive. Give them loving advice, encourage them, and help them through tough times. Your support helps them be strong and confident.
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6)
Lead by example: Dads, you’re not just providers – you’re leaders too. Show your kids what it means to be kind, honest, and faithful. Your actions are powerful and teach your kids how to be good people.
“The righteous man walks in his integrity; His children are blessed after him” (Proverbs 20:7)
It’s okay to be real: Being strong isn’t about hiding your feelings. It’s okay to show when you’re sad, apologize when you mess up, and try to make things right. Being honest builds trust with your kids and makes your bond stronger.
Keep talking to God: When things get tough, talk to God. There have been many situations as our kids were growing to be teens that challenged us. Sometimes I don’t know what to say or what to do. That is when I go to our true Father. It is the time to ask for help and wisdom. Pray for your kids too, that they grow up to be good people. Remember God is only a prayer away.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”(Philippians 4:6-7)
And one more thing…
Some people haven’t had good dads. When Father’s Day comes around, they might feel sad because they never had a dad to look up to. But I want you to know that your worth isn’t defined by not having a positive dad in your life.
You’re not alone. Lots of people have been through the same thing, wishing for a dad’s love and guidance. Not having a good dad doesn’t mean you can’t love, succeed, or be happy.
You can break the cycle, change your story, and create your own path filled with love and kindness.
Find positive role models and mentors who can support you like a dad would. Surround yourself with people who believe in you and remind you of how valuable you are.
And most importantly, remember that you’re loved unconditionally by a Heavenly Father who knows and cherishes you endlessly. His love fills the gaps left by earthly dads. Find strength and joy in His love, knowing you’re always in His care.
BERMIE DIZON is a retired pastor of Grace Communion International at Glendora, California and a former writer for USA Tribune for 9 years.
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